Is Diagnosis a Trauma?
If you have received a prenatal test result for your child, we are here to support you. Our services are free. Talk with one of our nurses to determine if parent care coordination would be helpful for you.
Prenatal diagnoses can be shocking and even traumatizing. A study of parents receiving a prenatal diagnosis found 88% of mothers and 83% of fathers responded in ways that indicated they were traumatized.1 We want to reassure you that your feelings are valid and you're not alone in this journey.
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Understanding the Emotional Impact of a Prenatal Diagnosis
Receiving a prenatal diagnosis can trigger a range of intense emotions. You might experience:
- Shock and Disbelief: The news might feel surreal, making it hard to accept the reality of the situation.
- Grief and Loss: You may grieve the loss of the healthy pregnancy you envisioned, the potential loss of your child, or the life you had planned.
- Anxiety and Fear: Uncertainty about your child's health and future can lead to overwhelming worry and anxiety.
- Guilt and Self-Blame: It's common for parents to unfairly blame themselves, even though they have no control over the situation.
- Anger and Frustration: You might feel anger towards the healthcare system, the situation, or even yourself.
- Depression and Isolation: The emotional weight of the diagnosis can lead to feelings of sadness, hopelessness, and withdrawal from others.
These are all natural responses to trauma. Recognizing and acknowledging these feelings is the first step towards healing.
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Trauma's Impact on Decision-Making
Trauma can make it difficult to think clearly, remember information, and make sound decisions. You might feel pressured to make choices quickly, but it's crucial to take the time you need. Rushing into decisions while experiencing trauma can lead to later regrets
Some common reactions to trauma include:
- Fight or Flight Response: This might manifest as anger towards the doctor or an urge to prove the diagnosis wrong. You may also want to avoid medical settings or the place where you received the diagnosis.
- Disconnection: You might feel emotionally distant from your baby or overwhelmed by thoughts of terminating the pregnancy. These feelings are not uncommon and can be addressed with support.
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Taking Time to Heal and Seek Support
Remember, you have the right to take your time, process your emotions, and make informed decisions about your child's care. We encourage you to:
- Explore Resources: Our website offers information and resources on prenatal diagnoses and coping mechanisms.
- Talk to a Nurse: Our nurses are here to listen, offer guidance, and connect you with support services. Reach out today for caring help.
- Consider Parent Care Coordination: This service can provide personalized assistance and connect you with relevant resources.
You don't have to go through this alone. We're here to support you every step of the way.